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Die wetenskap van geluk

Die wetenskap van geluk

Die Bybel sê:

Die wette van die HERE is reg, en diegene wat dit gehoorsaam, is gelukkig (Psalm 19:8 GNT).

Gelukkig is diegene wie se lewens onberispelik is, wat volgens die wet van die HERE leef (Psalm 119:1 GNT).

God se wette is die protokolle waarop ons Skepper lewe en gesondheid gebou het om te werk, insluitende die wette van fisika, die wette van gesondheid en die sedewette. Die Bybel sê vir ons dat geluk slegs moontlik is as ons leef in ooreenstemming met hoe ons Skepper ons gebou het om te funksioneer, as ons leef in ooreenstemming met die wette van gesondheid.

Geluk is die neweproduk van gesondheid op alle terreine – fisies, geestelik, emosioneel, verhoudingsgebonde en geestelik. Wanneer ons fisies siek is, is ons nie gelukkig nie; verstandelike- of emosionele siekte – nie gelukkig nie; verhoudingskonflik – nie gelukkig nie; geestelike siekte (skuldgevoelens, skaamte, veroordeling) – nie gelukkig nie.

Viktor Frankl – Oostenrykse neuroloog, psigiater en Holocaust-oorlewende – het geskryf:

Moenie na sukses mik nie – hoe meer jy daarna mik en dit ‘n teiken maak, hoe meer gaan jy dit mis. Want sukses, soos geluk, kan nie nagestreef word nie; dit moet volg, en dit doen dit slegs as die onbedoelde newe-effek van ‘n mens se persoonlike toewyding aan ‘n saak groter as jouself of as die neweproduk van ‘n mens se oorgawe aan ‘n ander persoon behalwe jouself. Geluk moet gebeur, en dieselfde geld vir sukses: jy moet dit laat gebeur deur nie daaroor om te gee nie. Ek wil hê jy moet luister na wat jou gewete jou beveel om te doen en voortgaan om dit na die beste van jou wete uit te voer. Dan sal jy lewe om te sien dat sukses jou op die lange duur sal volg juis omdat jy vergeet het om daaraan te dink (Man’s Search for Meaning, bll. 16, 17, my beklemtoning).

Baie mense is ongelukkig omdat hulle fisies, sielkundig, verhoudingsgewys of geestelik ongesond is, en ongelukkig sal hulle plesiersoek vervang vir geluk in ‘n poging om beter te “voel”, maar byna al sulke plesiersoeke oortree die wette van gesondheid op een of ander manier (trooseet, alkohol, dwelms, inkopies, dobbel, pornografie, troos in vlugtige verhoudings, ens.)

Weereens, geluk is die byproduk van gesondheid op alle gebiede, en gesondheid word slegs ervaar wanneer ons in harmonie is met God se ontwerpwette vir die lewe – die protokolle waarop die Skepper God die werklikheid gebou het om te werk. Wanneer ons die wette van gesondheid oortree, sal die gevolglike siekte, siektetoestand en lyding wat voorkom ons geluk ondermyn. Dit is waarom die Bybel herhaaldelik vir ons sê, “Gelukkig is dié wat God se wet onderhou!” (Spreuke 29:18 GNT).

Hoewel ons nie kan kies om “gelukkig te wees” of direk geluk te verkry nie, kan ons kies om gesond te wees en te kies om in ooreenstemming met alle aspekte van God se ontwerpwette vir lewe te leef. Ons kan kies om ons harte aan Jesus oor te gee en wedergebore te word met nuwe motiewe van liefde – liefde vir God, vir die waarheid en vir ander. Ons kan kies om ‘n lewe van waarheid na te streef wat geleef word met motiewe om te seën en lief te hê – want die waarheid is altyd die gesonde keuse. Soos ons gesondheid kies, is die byproduk steeds toenemende geluk. En die wetenskap dokumenteer die positiewe uitkomste en verband tussen God se ontwerpwette en ons gesondheid en geluk.

  • In ‘n studie van ses weke het navorsers deelnemers lukraak in ‘n kontrolegroep en twee aktiewe groepe verdeel. Een aktiewe groep moes ‘jou seëninge een keer per week op Sondae tel’, terwyl die ander aktiewe groep drie keer per week ‘jou seëninge moes tel’ – op Sondae, Dinsdae en Donderdae. Dit is gedoen deur lyste te maak van dinge waarvoor hulle dankbaar was. Die navorsers het bevind dat:
    • Diegene wat hul seëninge een keer per week getel het, het verbetering in dankbaarheid en geluk gehad, terwyl beide die kontroles en diegene wat hul seëninge drie keer per week getel het, vermindering in beide dankbaarheid en geluk gehad het.
    • Een keer per week se tel van seëninge het ‘n werklike dankbaarheid en waardering veroorsaak, terwyl dit drie keer per week ‘n desensitisering veroorsaak het waarin die lys opstel sleurwerk, ‘n taak, roetine en miskien selfs ‘n las geword het, en sodoende geluk verminder het (Lyubomirsky, S et al, “Pursuit happiness, the architecture of sustainable change.” Hersiening van Algemene Sielkunde. 2005; 9(2)111–131).
  • In ‘n studie van vier weke het navorsers deelnemers in ‘n kontrolegroep en twee aktiewe bemiddelingsgroepe geskei. Een aktiewe groep moes dade van goedhartigheid vir ander doen, terwyl die ander aktiewe groep dade van goedhartigheid vir hulself moes doen. Aan die einde van die studie, en ook op ‘n latere opvolgpunt, het navorsers bevind:
    • Diegene wat dade van vriendelikheid vir ander gedoen het, was gelukkiger as die kontrolegroep, maar diegene wat dade van vriendelikheid vir hulself gedoen het, was nie anders as die kontrolegroep nie (Nelson, SK et al., Emosies. 2016; 16(6):850–861).
    • Dade van vriendelikheid teenoor ander aktiveer breinbane wat die liggaam se streskaskade kalmeer en lei tot beter fisiese en geestelike gesondheid. Dade van vriendelikheid teenoor self het nie dieselfde voordeel nie.
  • In ‘n ander studie van vier weke wou navorsers sien of dade van vriendelikheid meer doen as om net ‘n emosionele toestand van geluk te bring. Is daar fisiese voordele aan dade van goedhartigheid? Die navorsers het deelnemers in vier groepe verdeel – ‘n kontrole groep, diegene wat dade van vriendelikheid vir ander moes doen, diegene wat dade van vriendelikheid vir die wêreld moes doen (soos om vullis langs die pad op te tel), en diegene wat dade van vriendelikheid vir hulself gedoen het. Hulle het toe geen (gene) reaksie in witbloedselle ondersoek om te meet of daar verskille in immuniteit was. Die navorsers het bevind dat:
    • In vergelyking met die kontrole groep het diegene wat dade van vriendelikheid vir ander verrig het, minder inflammasie ervaar en die vermoë om virusse te beveg het verbeter. Met ander woorde, geenuitdrukking het epigeneties verander om gesondheid te verbeter as gevolg van hierdie dade.
    • Maar diegene wat dade van vriendelikheid teenoor die wêreld of vir hulself gedoen het, het nie van die kontrole groep verskil nie (Nelson-Coffey, SK, et al., Psychoneuroendocrinology. 2017; 81:8-13).
  • Navorsers het ook bevind dat dade van vriendelikheid of geluk ingrypings (happiness interventions) in sommige situasies ‘n terugslag reaksie kan hê en ‘n persoon minder gelukkig kan maak. Soos:
    • Wanneer die motivering om dit te doen selfgefokus is, soos om dade van vriendelikheid te doen sodat ander meer van jou sal hou of jy bevordering of lof sal kry, ens. dus geen verbetering in geluk nie. Om die voordeel te verkry, moet die aksie voortspruit uit ‘n hartsmotief wat van plan is om ‘n ander te bevoordeel, dit wil sê uit liefde; dit is nie die daad self nie!
    • Wanneer hierdie dade ‘n las word, roetine, werk, eerder as werklike liefde.
    • Wanneer hulle ‘n mens se hart, oortuigings of huidige ingesteldheid weerspreek:
      • Soos ‘n persoon wat in kliniese depressie is en ‘n dankbaarheidslys maak; Dit kan eintlik veroorsaak dat die persoon skuldig voel of soos ‘n las vir ander voel terwyl hulle dink aan hoeveel ander vir hulle gedoen het.
      • Kulturele teenstrydighede – in sommige Oosterse kulture word die daad om ‘n mens se ouers te bedank vir ‘n goeie werk in die grootmaak van hul kinders as ‘n belediging beskou, dit wil sê asof hulle nie hul plig teenoor hul gesin sou nagekom het nie.
      • Aksies wat in stryd is met ‘n persoon se basiese persoonlikheid, soos ‘n introverte persoon wat opdrag gegee word om voor ‘n groep dankie te sê.

Geluk is slegs moontlik in harmonie met God se ontwerpwette vir die lewe, en navorsing het tot dusver getoon dat die grootste aksie wat ‘n mens kan neem wat konsekwent groter geluk meebring, is om onselfsugtig te leef, ander lief te hê en goedhartige dade teenoor ander te doen.

 

 

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