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Die Doel Om Ons Sondes Aan Ander Te Bely

Die Doel Om Ons Sondes Aan Ander Te Bely

Die Bybel sê,

Is iemand van julle siek? Hy moet die ouderlinge van die kerk roep om oor hom te bid en hom in die Naam van die Here met olie salf. En die gebed wat in geloof gedoen word, sal die sieke gesond maak; die Here sal hom oprig. As hy gesondig het, sal hy vergewe word. Bely dus julle sondes aan mekaar en bid vir mekaar sodat julle genees kan word. Die gebed van ‘n regverdige man is kragtig en effektief (Jakobus 5:14-16 NIV84).

Die Bybel raai ons aan om ons sondes teenoor mekaar te bely – maar waarom? Wat beteken dit? Is dit die doel om ‘n mens se persoonlike sondes openbaar te maak? Is dit die doel dat ons rituele belydenis teenoor ‘n kerk-gemagtigde priester in ‘n belydenishokkie doen?

En wat gaan aan dat Jakobus die belydenis van sondes verbind het met genesing van siekte?

My begrip is dat Jakobus gelowiges lei om die metodes van God toe te pas wat genesing in ‘n mens se hart en verstand bring, en sulke genesing het ook ‘n baie positiewe impak op ons fisiese gesondheid. Jakobus praat nie van ‘n wetlike belydenis, ‘n belydenis aan ‘n kerkamptenaar vir een of ander seremoniële kwytskelding nie, en hy praat ook nie daarvan om persoonlike sondes openbaar te maak nie. Hy praat daarvan om aan ‘n ander mens te bely met die doel om ‘n mens se hart en verstand te genees van die vrees en skaamte wat sonde meebring.

Een van die gevolge van sonde, van die oortreding van die wette wat God in die werking van die werklikheid ingebou het, om teenstrydig met liefde op te tree, is dat sonde ‘n verandering in die sondaar veroorsaak – hulle ervaar skuldgevoelens, vrees en skaamte.

Skuldgevoelens, vrees en skaamte aktiveer die brein se stresbane en aktiveer die liggaam se immuunstelsel, wat verskeie inflammatoriese faktore verhoog; As dit nie opgelos word nie, dra dit by tot verskeie gesondheidsprobleme, soos insulienweerstandigheid, vetsug, diabetes by volwassenes, vaskulêre siektes, depressie, demensie en ander gesondheidsprobleme.

Onopgeloste skuldgevoelens, skaamte en vrees belemmer ook slaap, wat die immuunstelsel, sirkadiese ritmes, die brein se vermoë om afvalprodukte van metabolisme skoon te maak, die liggaam se vermoë om die stressiklus te verminder, ontwrig – wat alles gesondheidsprobleme verhoog.

Boonop ondermyn chroniese skuldgevoelens en skaamte gesonde verhoudings. Mense met chroniese skuldgevoelens en skaamte voel onseker en is bekommerd dat mense kan uitvind oor wat hulle ook al skuldig en skaam oor voel. Hulle sal op hul hoede wees, leer om sosiale “maskers” te dra, voor te gee dat hulle is wat hulle glo ander wil hê, en altyd sekere grense hou om ware intimiteit te voorkom uit vrees vir verwerping as mense die oorsaak van hul skuld en skaamte ken. Dit alles vererger beide geestelike en fisiese gesondheid.

God se plan van verlossing is die plan van genesing, van herstel, van herskepping, van die verwydering van die sonde en die skadelike gevolge daarvan uit die lewens van mense en hulle herstelling tot gesondheid, tot heelheid, tot heiligheid, tot geregtigheid – en dit vereis nie ‘n wetlike vergifnis vir slegte dade nie, maar die verwydering van sonde, die reiniging van vrees, selfsug, skuldgevoelens, skaamte en alle ongesonde motiewe uit die harte en gedagtes van mense.

God belowe dat as ons ons tot Hom wend, kan Hy die volgende doen:

Ek sal jou ‘n nuwe hart en ‘n nuwe verstand gee. Ek sal jou hardnekkige hart van klip wegneem en jou ‘n gehoorsame hart gee. Ek sal my gees in jou plaas en sorg dat jy my wette volg en al die gebooie wat Ek jou gegee het, onderhou. Dan sal jy woon in die land wat Ek jou voorvaders gegee het (Esegiël 36:26, 27 GNB).

God wil ons nie wetlike vergifnis gee nie; Hy poog om vir ons ‘n nuwe lewe te gee, ‘n geneesde lewe, ‘n rein hart, ‘n regte gees, ‘n herskepte en geneesde verstand, gemotiveer met ‘n nuwe gees van liefde en vertroue.

Een van die middele wat God verorden het om vrees en skaamte te verwyder nadat ‘n mens berou gehad het en met Hom versoen is, is die belydenis van jou sondes aan ‘n ander volwasse, Christelike persoon. Die doel hiervan is om die vrees en skaamte te suiwer, te suiwer van die twyfel of ander hulle nog kan liefhê, steeds vir hulle kan omgee, steeds aanvaar, hulle steeds toelaat om deel van die gemeenskap te wees, hulle steeds toelaat om te dien en nuttig te wees in God se saak.

Toe Adam en Eva gesondig het, het hulle bang geword, weggehardloop en weggekruip omdat hulle naak was. Hulle het blootgestel gevoel. Hulle was bang vir verwerping, verleentheid en vernedering, en hulle het probeer om hulle skaamte met hulle eie vyeblaarklere te bedek. Hulle het probeer om hulself goed te laat lyk – hul “masker” om hul skuldgevoelens en skaamte te bedek.

Dit is wat sonde aan mense doen; dit beskadig die beeld van God van binne, besoedel die gees van liefde met vrees en selfsug, skuld en skaamte, wat, indien dit nie verwyder word nie, wegvretend is, wat lei tot isolasie, wat vrees verder aanvuur met die daaropvolgende agteruitgang van ‘n mens se fisiese gesondheid.

Sondaars wat hulle bekeer het en God se liefde en vergifnis ontvang het, moet ook werklike aanvaarding, konneksie, versoening, liefde ervaar en gewaardeer word deur mense wat van hul sondes weet. Sodat hulle kan weet dat hul sonde nie hul lewe ongeldig, permanent verwoes en waardeloos gemaak het nie. Dit is wanneer die berouvolle persoon ervaar dat hulle opreg geliefd en aanvaar word ten spyte daarvan dat ‘n ander persoon hul mees skandelike sondes ken, dat die skaamte en vrees wat isolasie en wantroue veroorsaak, verwyder word.

Een van die plekke waar dit die doeltreffendste beoefen en gedemonstreer word, is Alkoholiste Anoniem (AA) vergaderings. Wanneer ‘n alkoholis na ‘n AA-vergadering gaan, stel hulle hulself voor en sê: “Hallo, ek is Bob, en ek is ‘n alkoholis.” Hulle bely hul verslawing, en die groep reageer met: “Welkom, Bob.”

Hierdie proses demonstreer die genesende element wat deur Jakobus aanbeveel word. Die alkoholis weet hulle sukkel, weet hulle het ‘n probleem, weet hulle het hulself, God, familie en vriende in die steek gelaat. Hulle het herhaaldelik op hul eie probeer ophou, maar hulle het herhaaldelik misluk en voel moedeloos, hulpeloos en skaam, ervaar vrees vir verwerping, veroordeling en selfs straf. Hulle vrees dat niemand hulle sou liefhê as hulle van hul sondes geweet het nie; hul waardigheid word beskadig; hulle is bang om ander in die oë te kyk, en dus bely hulle by die AA-vergadering hul verslawing en ervaar dat hulle aanvaar word ten spyte daarvan dat almal van hul swakheid weet.

Maar gelyktydig met hul aanvaarding as ‘n mens wat gewaardeer en geliefd is, identifiseer die AA-groep die verslawing as vernietigend, skadelik en iets wat oorkom moet word sodat die verslaafde genees en vrygemaak kan word. Die alkoholis word aanvaar; die verslawing nie. Net so moet Christene altyd die sondaar liefhê en aanvaar wat berouvol is en sukkel terwyl ons die sonde verwerp en probeer om God se metodes toe te pas om oorwinning te behaal. Deel van hierdie genesende aksie is die liefdevolle aanvaarding van ‘n berouvolle sondaar.

Wanneer die berouvolle sondaar die aanvaarding, liefde en waardering van mense ervaar ten spyte daarvan dat hulle van hul sondes weet, is daar ‘n verligting van vrees en skaamte. Hul stresbane kalmeer, die inflammatoriese kaskade skakel af, slaap verbeter en fisiese gesondheid verbeter. Die individu kan vorentoe beweeg sonder die ‘masker’, ‘n outentieke lewe lei, werklike verbindings maak waarin hulle hulself is. Dit alles het ‘n genesende impak op ons hele wese.

Hierdie volledige genesende belydenis word spesifiek voorgeskryf vir verslaafdes in die vierde en vyfde stap van AA se 12 stappe, wat lui:

Stap 4: Maak ‘n soekende en vreeslose morele inventaris van jouself

Stap 5: Erken aan God, jouself en ‘n ander mens die presiese aard van jou verkeerde dinge

Hierdie stappe pas die genesingsbeginsel toe wat Jakobus opdrag gegee het om te gebruik. Om van sonde te genees, moet ons ophou om weg te hardloop van die waarheid dat ons gebroke is en aan God, onsself en ten minste een ander mens die waarheid oor onsself, ons stryd, ons swakhede en ons sondes erken. Wanneer ons dit doen, ervaar ons vergifnis van God, ‘n nuwe hart van God, herskepping van God, liefde van God en ‘n nuwe lewendige motivering van God. En wanneer ons dit aan ten minste een ander mens bely en hulle leef in harmonie met Jesus en reageer soos Jesus sou doen, dan ervaar ons aanvaarding. En dit is deur hierdie menslike aanvaarding te ervaar dat die vrees en skaamte verwyder word. Die verwydering van vrees en skaamte uit ‘n mens se hart en verstand is ‘n vereiste vir genesing.

As jy sukkel met chroniese vrees, skuldgevoelens en skaamte, sal ek jou aanmoedig om ‘n deurdringende morele inventaris te doen en dan na God toe te gaan, alles aan Hom te bely, en Hom te vra vir ‘n nuwe hart en regte gees, sy teenwoordigheid in jou innerlike wese te ervaar, sy liefde, vrede, genade, barmhartigheid, aanvaarding. En vind dan ten minste een volwasse Christen en voer hierdie gesprek, verduidelik jou verlange na God se genesing in jou lewe, en bely jou sondes aan daardie persoon sodat jy kan ervaar dat jy geliefd is as ‘n kind van God en dat jou vorige sondes jou nie uitgesluit het van God se liefde, genade of gemeenskap in sy familie nie.

As jy die krag van gebed en die doel van die olie in Jakobus se aanbeveling hierbo wil verken, kyk na ons blog Salwing Met Olie: Ware Medisyne Of Bygelowige Seremonie?

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